I have been glaringly silent…….when it comes to this space.
But I have not been silent in my own world of my heart and my mind, inside of my home, or when it comes to conversations that have been unravelling around the Cornwell 7 and the 1000’s of women who write under all the posts describing their own experiences of Fraternity gang R&pe, the continued cases of racial lynching, the refusal to trial the men in the Epstein files, the discovery of more R*pe academies online, the arrest of a group European men whom have set up S$x schools to traffic children from Senagal to more white men….. so on and so on and so on…. and it is not quietening down.
As a woman who is constantly in the space of other women continuing to share that this is how we commonly experience life as women in a world where we are not safe, i am so f*cking exhausted at the rhetoric that men are our protectors.
As women we know that any protection we are to receive from men, in our current patriarchal system, relies on the condition that we submit to him … For a man to protect a woman she needs to be having s*x with him… and then we know that the person MOST dangerous to any women is her partner. The man a woman has s*x with is her Apex Predator.
I dont know about you..but I am so f*cking done playing this game ..inside of a culture that created systems to weaken men and make a world that is so unsafe for women and children that on mass we are more enticed to live with a households of cats than with a man…..
So….
With this new and oh so common round of more reports of how women are treated inside of this system, I have been placing lines in the sand. Both in my personal life and here in my business.
I am dedicating these next few years to truly bringing my voice to what matters to me.
yes..i have some great “short programs” that have changed lives for 99% of those who have them ( the 1% did not do the work ). But from now on sitting with me is only in immense form. I am not here to play small, and if you have found your way here, neither are you. Our greatness is the revolution. And there is no more time waiting for someone else to do it for us.
And the revolution HAS TO START with our very own selves and our intimate relationships.
So let me begin questioning this title of “toxic masculinity”
Because when we call something as “toxic masculinity,” we are making masculinity itself sound like some kind of disease. A flaw even. and it is NOT
..masculinity is not this one single behaviour, one type of personality or just A set of values.
Masculinity within men can be expressed through their cultivated courage, their tenderness, their integrity, accountability, both physically and emotionally and of course through their devotion and care.
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Before you go if you have not subscribed… I invite you to ask yourself something. Have you been conditioned by the structures you were raised in to be experiencing what is happening on a global level right now, in silence?
are you a woman who is staying silent and not asking your male partner what his thoughts are on the r@pe culture you are raising your children in? sending them to college for…and have kept silent and dont share all of the ways you brace yourself when you go out shopping for the groceries for the household? Have you been hearing snide remarks about women drinking and therfor are bringing all this onto themselves? and you feel you cannot truly express your rage inside of your own relationship and home?
are you a man who feels unsure and intimidated, even at a loss on how to hold space or what to say in the midst of what is happening. Are you also rage-full because you believe you are one of the “good guys”, and yet to stay silent feels safer…to you.
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